For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:…
For God hath not called us unto uncleanness but unto holiness.
Because of that a holy walk can be lonely. I think that is why marriage to a follow Christian is so appealing. God calling two people to walk in holiness together for His glory.
One time I stumbled the blog of a woman that grow up in an Independent Fundamental Baptist church. She was waiting for her husband but knew that a IFB guy wouldn’t give time of day because she was “smart and independent”. I put it in quotes because that is what she said. Though I think her cursing might have been a turn off. She met the man that she later married and found out that he didn’t wait for her. She said she hated God over this then finished her post by saying that God didn’t write her love story and He doesn’t write anyone else’s. Don’t bother saving yourself.
I analyzed the post. God was brought up only as the Person keeping her imagined husband pure because she was pure and as the Person that broke that bargain. He was never the reason for waiting.
I see so many girls waiting for a husband when God never guarantees marriage to all His followers. In fact He might ask some to remain single. I some times wonder if the marriage obsession in young Christians is a masked “safe” version of sex obsession.
So if we aren’t waiting for husbands what are we waiting for? God.
My pastor once said, “Holiness isn’t what you do but why you do it.” Don’t do something to get a type of man. Do it because you love God and want to do His will.
Dear Lord, help me do this for You and only You. Let this never be about Edward or other man that comes my way. If You’ve called me to be single I know its not a punishment for my past its just You’re will.
Real holiness can’t possibly be miserable and long faced, Jane. Holiness means ‘wholeness.’ Comes from the same root as hale - you know, hale and hearty. Healthy. Fulfilled.
Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity